My favorite holiday of the year is here. Thanksgiving a time to see friends and family all in the same place. Usually a peaceful time, but for some, holiday time is not the bringing of good tidings but it’s a time when someone brings “crazy” as a side dish to a festive occasion. Mental health officials chill for a moment, everybody knows of some family where there’s an individual who manages to make the holidays miserable for those around them.
COVID-19 has made these holidays stressful, with many families altering their annual gathering plans or cancelling them altogether.
Before embarking on that over the river and though the woods trip, be mindful of what you’re walking into, “mom loved you most”, “I don’t like her!” and the old standard, “when are you going to…. (Fill in the blank a perceived human deficiency of choice.)
Some pick holiday time to get something off their chest, like they’ve been depositing emotions in a savings account and now it’s time to withdraw funds and spend some. Whatever the occasion there’s bound to be some tension, take deep breaths and count or if the event is that disturbing don’t go, stay at home -but don’t bring side dishes to your family’s event that people are allergic to.
If you’re unemployed use the holidays as an occasion to get information on who may be hiring. Family and friends are good sources of information. Wipe your feet and leave your problems on the door mat as you enter a home where people are gathered.
Don’t feed into despair, being depressed is a trap that’s easy to fall into. Thanksgiving’s about being thankful for what you have and even what you don’t have, some struggle with an added burden of having some disease that limits their life expectancy. Be thankful that you got up this morning some people didn’t make it through the night.
So this Thanksgiving Day if someone brings their negative issues to the family table, take a moment, breath and make sure not to add to their crazy, instead, why not offer to pass the cranberries with a bit more relish than usual, “Care for some cranberries!”